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In a Creative Mornings talk, creative thinker Simon Sinek shows how to clearly ask what you want from someone. Because these things can be annoying, especially if you don't have much contact with the other person.

Check out the video after the break and skip to 25:30 where Simon explains his concept. Check out below as well, where its a summary of it.
Hi Person,

Haven't seen you in years. I hope you're doing well. Congratulations on all you've been doing. It's really amazing! We should grab coffee sometime. If you could do me a favor, I'm in an online contest where I can win a big prize and I was wondering if you'd vote for me. Hope you're well, talk to you soon.

Thanks!
Another Person

For most people, reading that email will inspire a press of the delete key. Simon points out that changing the order will change the reaction:

Hi Person,

I'm hoping you could vote for me in an online contest where I can win a big prize for my work. I haven't seen you in years. I hope you're doing well. Congratulations on all you've been doing. It's really amazing! We should grab coffee sometime.

Thanks!
Another Person
It works because the pleasantries seem genuine to follow a request. So don't give false pleasantries first, and then your request. Reverse it.  Once the request is made, they're actually appreciated because they colored by any other motives.

Check out the video below:


2012-04 Simon Sinek | Creative Mornings (Vimeo) via Swissmiss